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I am a 58-year-old, twice divorced, hard-working, middle-class female. I spend most of my time working and involved with my three adult children. About a year ago I started dating someone. He is 63, very helpful and claims he's madly in love with me and appreciates this opportunity for a normal, wholesome life.
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Occasionally I'll catch him staring at women's butts. It bothers me a bit, but oh well, he's a man. Last week our family went camping. At least a dozen times I saw him position himself so that he could stare at my 40-year-old daughter's behind. Keep in mind, my daughter dresses VERY conservatively, and this trip was almost all jeans and T-shirts.
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As we were packed up and ready to head home, she said she had to relieve herself and headed into the bushes (this is a remote campground). Instead of my boyfriend looking the other way as we all did, he stared and gawked in her direction obviously trying to sneak a peek!
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Abby, I am devastated and disgusted. Please give me your take on this. - NORMAL OR NOT IN NEW YORK
[Advice]
Á¤»óÀ̽Šµ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: ³²ÀÚ°¡ ¿©¼ºÀÇ ½Åü ºÎÀ§¸¦ ¹Ù¶óº¸´Â °ÍÀº Á¤»óÀÌÁö¸¸ µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ ³²ÀÚÄ£±¸´Â ±× Á¤µµ¸¦ ³Ñ¾ú³×¿ä. ±×°¡ µû´ÔÀÌ º¼ÀÏÀ» º¸´Â µ¿¾È ÈÉÃÄ º¸·Á Çß´Ù´Â »ç½ÇÀº ±×°¡ °üÀ½ÁõÀÌ ÀÖ´Â »ç¶÷ÀÓÀ» ³ªÅ¸³À´Ï´Ù. ÀÌÁ¦ µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼´Â ±×°¡ ´ÜÁö ±âȸ¸¦ ÀÌ¿ëÇÏ·Á°í ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÎÁö ¾Æ´Ï¸é Àû±ØÀûÀ¸·Î ±×°ÍÀ» Ãß±¸ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÎÁö ±¸º°ÇÏ¼Å¾ß ÇÕ´Ï´Ù. ÀÌ´Â Àå·¡¿¡ ¹®Á¦°¡ µÉ ¼öµµ Àֱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ¿¡¿ä.
DEAR NORMAL: For a man to look at women's body parts is normal, but what your boyfriend did goes beyond that. For him to try to sneak a peek at your daughter while she relieved herself indicates that he is a voyeur. Now you must determine whether he just takes advantage of an opportunity or he actively seeks it out, which could present a problem in the future.
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* wander »ç¶÷ÀÇ ½Ã¼±[»ý°¢, ¸¶À½]ÀÌ (´Ù¸¥ µ¥·Î) ½ò¸®´Ù[Æȸ®´Ù]
(= to stop paying attention to something and think about something else)
e.g.) His eyes wandered towards the photographs on the wall. ±×´Â º®¿¡ °É¸° ±×¸²µé¿¡ ´«ÀÌ ÆÈ·Á ÀÖ¾ú´Ù.
* by accident ¿ì¿¬È÷ (= in a way that is not planned or intended)
e.g.) We met by accident at the airport. ¿ì¸®´Â °øÇ׿¡¼ ¿ì¿¬È÷ ¸¸³µ´Ù.
* wholesome °ÇÀüÇÑ, À¯ÀÍÇÑ (= considered to have a good moral effect)
e.g.) I do not consider magic a wholesome entertainment. ³ª´Â ¸¶¼úÀ» °ÇÀüÇÑ ¿À¶ôÀ¸·Î ¿©±âÁö´Â ¾Ê´Â´Ù.
* Oh, well! ±¦Âú¾Æ!, ±×·² ¼öµµ ÀÖÁö!, ¾î¿ ¼ö ¾øÁö!
(= oh well used to show that you accept a situation even though you feel disappointed or annoyed about it)
e.g.) Oh well, I can't help it. ±×·¡, ¾î¿ ¼ö ¾ø±º.
* behind (ºñ°Ý½Ä) ¾ûµ¢ÀÌ (= a word used to mean your buttocks when you want to be polite)
e.g.) The dog bit him on his behind.°³°¡ ±×ÀÇ ¾ûµ¢À̸¦ ¹°¾ú´Ù.
* relieve oneself º¼ÀÏÀ» º¸´Ù(ÈÀå½Ç¿¡ °¡´Â °ÍÀ» Á¤ÁßÇÏ°Ô ³ªÅ¸³¿) (= a polite expression meaning to urinate)
e.g.) I had to relieve myself behind a bush. ³ª´Â ´ýºÒ µÚ¿¡¼ º¼ÀÏÀ» º¸¾Æ¾ß Çß´Ù.
* gawk (at sb/sth) (ºñ°Ý½Ä) ¾óºüÁø µíÀÌ (¸ÛÇÏ´Ï) ¹Ù¶óº¸´Ù
(= to look at something for a long time,in a way that seems stupid)
e.g.) The crowd gawked at the man with blue hair. ±ºÁßÀº ÆĶõ ¸Ó¸®ÀÇ ³²ÀÚ¸¦ ¸ÛÇÏ´Ï ³ÌÀ» ÀÒ°í ÃÄ´Ùº¸¾Ò´Ù.
* voyeur °üÀ½ÁõÀÌ ÀÖ´Â »ç¶÷
(= someone who gets sexual pleasure from secretly watching other people having sex or taking their clothes off)