ÀúÈñ ºÎ¸ð´Ôµé(ÀúÈñ ¾ö¸¶, ¾Æºü, »õ¾ö¸¶¿Í »õ ¾Æºü)²² Á×À½¿¡ ´ëÇØ °èȹÀ» ¼¼¿ì¼Ì´ÂÁö ¿©ÂÞ¾î º¸°í ½Í½À´Ï´Ù. Àú´Â ÀÌ°ÍÀÌ Á» ÀÌ»óÇÏ°Ô º¸ÀÏÁöµµ ¸ð¸£°ÚÁö¸¸, ÀúÈñ ÇҾƹöÁö²²¼ µ¹¾Æ°¡½Å ÈÄ ºÎ¸ð´Ôµé²²¼ ¸ðµÎ°¡ ÇҾƹöÁö ½º½º·Î ¸ðµç Áغñ¸¦ ÇÏ½Ç ¼ö ÀÖ¾î¼ ¾ó¸¶³ª ¾ÈµµÇÏ¿´´ÂÁö ¸ð¸¥´Ù°í °è¼Ó ¸»¾¸Çϼ̽À´Ï´Ù.
I want to ask my parents ¦¡ my mom, dad, stepmom and stepdad ¦¡ if they have planned for their deaths. I know this may seem weird, but after my grandfather died, all of them kept saying how relieved they were that he was able to make all of his own arrangements.
Àú´Â Àå·Ê ºñ¿ëÀÌ ¸¹ÀÌ µç´Ù´Â °ÍÀ» ¾Ë°í ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, ±×¸®°í Á¦°¡ À¯ÀÏÇÑ ÀÚ½ÄÀÌ¸é¼ ºÎ¸ð´ÔÀÌ ±×·¸°Ô ¸¹±â ¶§¹®¿¡ ±×°ÍÀÌ °ÆÁ¤°Å¸®¿¹¿ä. Á¦°¡ ¾î¶»°Ô ÀÌ ¹®Á¦¸¦ ²¨³¾ ¼ö ÀÖÀ»±î¿ä? µµ¿ÍÁֽðھî¿ä? - ¾ÕÀ» ³»´Ùº¸´Â µ¶ÀÚ
I know funerals are expensive, and since I am an only child and have so many parents, this worries me. How can I bring this up? Can you help? - LOOKING AHEAD
[Advice]
¾ÕÀ» ³»´Ùº¸½Ã´Â µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: ÀÌ ÈÁ¦¸¦ ²¨³»´Â ÇÑ °¡Áö ¹æ¹ýÀº µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ ÇҾƹö´Ô º°¼¼¿Í ±× ÈÄ ºÎ¸ð´ÔµéÀÌ ÇϽŠ³íÆò¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¾ð±ÞÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÏ °Å¿¹¿ä. ±×¸®°í ³ª¼ ºÎ¸ð´Ôµé²²¼ º¸°ÇÀÇ·á, Àå·Ê½Ä ¹× ÈÀå µî¿¡ ´ëÇÑ »çÀü ÀÇÇâ¼¿Í °ü·ÃÇÏ¿© ¾î¶² Áغñ¸¦ Çϼ̴ÂÁö ¿©ÂÞ¾î º¸¼¼¿ä.
DEAR LOOKING AHEAD: A way to raise the subject would be to refer to your grandfather's death and the comments your parents made afterward. Then ask what arrangements they have made regarding advance directives for health care, funerals, cremation, etc.
À¯¾ðÀº ¹Ì¸® ¹®¼·Î ÁغñÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ ¾ðÁ¦³ª Çö¸íÇÕ´Ï´Ù, ±×¸®°í µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼ ¼ºÀÎÀ̽öó¸é µ¶ÀÚ´Ôµµ À̸¦ ÇÏ¼Å¾ß ÇÕ´Ï´Ù. µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼ ÀÌ¹Ì À¯¾ðÀ» ¹®¼·Î ÀÛ¼ºÇϼ̴ٸé, ±×ºÐµé¿¡°Ô ¾Ë¸®½Ã´Â °ÍÀ¸·Î ´ëȸ¦ ½ÃÀÛÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖÀ¸½Ç °Ì´Ï´Ù. ±×¸®°í ³ª¼ ±×ºÐµéÀÇ °èȹÀº ¾î¶°ÇϽÅÁö ¿©ÂÞ¾î º¸¼¼¿ä.
It's always wise to plan ahead and put one's wishes in writing, and if you are an adult, you should also do this. If you have already put your wishes in writing, you could start the conversation by informing them ¦¡ and then ask what their plans are.
[¾îÈÖ & Ç¥Çö]
* fret about Á¶¹Ù½ÉÄ¡´Ù, Á¶¸¶Á¶¸¶ÇÏ´Ù (= to worry about)
e.g.) Fretting about it won't help. ±×°Í¿¡ ´ëÇØ Á¶¹Ù½ÉÄ¡´Â °ÍÀº µµ¿òÀÌ ¾È µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù.
* look ahead (¾Õ ÀÏÀ») ³»´Ùº¸´Ù, »ý°¢ÇÏ´Ù (= to think about what is going to happen in the future)
e.g.) I don't want to plan or look ahead. ³ª´Â °èȹÀ» ¼¼¿ì°Å³ª ¾ÕÀÏÀ» ³»´Ùº¸°í ½ÍÁö ¾Ê´Ù.