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»ì¾Æ Àִ ǥÇö, ¶Ñ·ÇÇÑ ÀÇ»ç Àü´ÞÀÇ ±â¼úÀ» ¹è¿ì½Ã±æ ¹Ù¶ø´Ï´Ù.
[Problem]
ÀúÈñ´Â Àڳడ 6¸íÀÎ °¡Á·ÀÔ´Ï´Ù. ÀúÈñ ¿¬·ÎÇÑ ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀº ÀúÈñ Àڽĵé Áß ÇÑ ¸í°ú ÇÑ ¹ø¿¡ 3°³¿ù ³»Áö 10°³¿ù¾¿ ÇÔ²² »ì°í °è¼Å¿ä. ÀúÈñ 6¸í °¡¿îµ¥ ÇÑ »ç¶÷¸¸ ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀÌ Æí¾ÈÇÏ°Ô »ì ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ¹æ°ú ÀÌ»óÀûÀΠȯ°æÀ» Áö´Ñ Àü¾÷ Áֺζø´Ï´Ù. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ±× ÀڸŴ ¾ö¸¶¸¦ ¹«±âÇÑÀ¸·Î ¸ð½Ã´Â °ÍÀº °ÅºÎÇÕ´Ï´Ù.
We are a family of six children. Our elderly mother lives with each of us three to 10 months at a time. Out of the six of us, only one is a homemaker who has the room and ideal setting for her to live comfortably. However, she refuses to have Mom permanently.
ÀúÈñ Àڽĵé Áß ³ª¸ÓÁö´Â ³·¿¡´Â ¾î¸Ó´Ï¿Í ÇÔ²² ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø°Ô ÇÏ´Â Á÷¾÷À» °®°í ÀÖ¾î¿ä. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ÀúÈñµé ¸ðµÎ´Â ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀ» ¾ç·Î¿ø¿¡ º¸³»´Â °ÍÀº ´çÄ¡ ¾ÊÀº ÀÏÀ̶ó°í ÇÕÀÇÇß½À´Ï´Ù.
The rest of us have jobs that don't allow us to be with her during the day. Yet we all agreed that putting Mom in a nursing home would be out of the question.
Á¦°¡ ÀÏÀ» ÇÒ ÇÊ¿ä°¡ ¾ø´Ù¸é, Á¦ ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀ» ¿µ±¸È÷ º¸»ìÆì µå¸± °ÍÀÔ´Ï´Ù. Àú´Â ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀÌ ÇÔ²² »ì±â¿¡ Èûµé ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù´Â °ÍÀ» ÀÎÁ¤ÇÕ´Ï´Ù. ¾î¸Ó´Ï´Â »ó´ë¹æ¿¡°Ô ¹Ùº¸ °°Àº ´À³¦ÀÌ µé°Ô Çϰųª ¿Â°® Á¾·ùÀÇ ½ÉºÎ¸§À» Ç϶ó°í °íÁýÀ» ÇÇ¿ì½Ç ¼ö ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, ´©±º°¡°¡ ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ µ·À» °¡Á®°¬´Ù°í ÀǽÉÀ» ÇϽʴϴÙ. Àú´Â ¾î¶»°Ô ÇØ¾ß ÇÒÁö ¸ð¸£°Ú¾î¿ä. - ¿ÀÇÏÀÌ¿À ÁÖ¿¡¼ ¿©¼¸ Áß Çϳª
If I didn't have to work, I'd take care of her permanently myself. I admit that she can be difficult to live with. She can cut you down, insist you do all kinds of errands and is suspicious about someone taking her money. I don't know what to do. - ONE OF SIX IN OHIO
[Advice]
¿©¼¸ Áß ÇϳªÀ̽Šµ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: ¾î¸Ó´Ô²²¼ ´Ã ÀÌ·± ½ÄÀÇ »óÅ·ΠÁö³»¿À¼Ì³ª¿ä? ±×·¯½Ã´Ù¸é, ¾Æ¸¶µµ ÇÑ ¹ø ´õ °¡Á· ȸÀǸ¦ ÇÏ¼Å¾ß ÇÒ ¶§ÀÎ °Í °°½À´Ï´Ù. Èûµé°í ÀÇ½É ¸¹Àº ºÎ¸ð¸¦ ¶°¾È´Â ºÎ´ãÀ» ÇÑ ÀڸŰ¡ ¸ðµÎ Áû¾îÁö±â¸¦ ±â´ëÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº ±× Àڸſ¡°Ô °øÁ¤ÇÏÁö ¸øÇÕ´Ï´Ù.
DEAR ONE OF SIX: Has your mother always been this way? If so, then perhaps it's time for another family meeting. To expect one sister to shoulder the entire burden of taking in a demanding, suspicious parent is unfair to her.
¸¸¾à ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀÇ ¼º°Ý¿¡ º¯È°¡ ÀÖ¾ú´Ù¸é, ¾î¸Ó´Ô²² ¹«½¼ ¹®Á¦°¡ ÀÖ´ÂÁö ¾Ë¾Æ º¸±â À§ÇØ ¾î¸Ó´Ô²²¼ ½Å°æÇÐÀûÀÎ Æò°¡¸¦ ¹Þ°Ô ÇØ µå¸®´Â °ÍÀ» °í·ÁÇϼ¼¿ä. ¾î¸Ó´Ô²²¼ º´À» ¾Î°í °è½ÅÁö ¿©ºÎ¿¡ ºÒ±¸ÇÏ°í ³ëÀÎ Àü¹® Á¤½Å°ú Àǻ簡 µµ¿òÀÌ µÇ´Â Á¶¾ðÀ» ÁÙ ¼ö ÀÖÀ» °ÍÀÔ´Ï´Ù. ±×¸®°í µ¶ÀÚ´Ô °¡Á· ¸ðµÎ°¡ ½ÇÇà °¡´ÉÇÏ¸é¼ ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀ» À§ÇÑ ¿µ±¸Àû ÁְŠȯ°æ¿¡ °üÇØ °áÁ¤ÇÏ´Â µ¥ µµ¿òÀ» ÁÙ ¼ö ÀÖÀ» °ÍÀÔ´Ï´Ù.
If there have been changes in your mother's personality, consider having her be neurologically evaluated to see if there is something wrong with her. A geriatric psychiatrist could give you some helpful input regardless of whether she's ill ¦¡ and help you all decide upon a workable, permanent living situation for her.
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* demanding ÀÏÀÌ ºÎ´ãÀÌ Å«, Èûµç (= A demanding job or task requires a lot of your time, energy, or attention)
e.g.) The work is physically demanding. ±× ÀÏÀº ½ÅüÀûÀÎ ºÎ´ãÀÌ Å©´Ù.
* homemaker Àü¾÷ ÁֺΠ(= A woman who works at home cleaning, cooking etc. and does not have another job; housewife)
e.g.) My father is a businessman, and my mother is a homemaker. ¾Æ¹ö´Ô²²¼´Â »ç¾÷°¡½Ã°í, ¾î¸Ó´ÔÀº Àü¾÷ ÁֺνʴϴÙ.
* be out of the question ´çÄ¡ ¾Ê´Ù, ¸»µµ ¾È µÈ´Ù (= unthinkable, nonsense, unreasonable, improper)
e.g.) That's out of the question.¸»µµ ¾È µÅ¿ä.
* cut (somebody) down (= to make somebody feel or look stupid, especially in front of other people)
e.g.) He always cuts her down in front of his friends. ±×´Â Ä£±¸µé ¾Õ¿¡¼ Ç×»ó ±×³à¸¦ ¹Ùº¸Ã³·³ º¸ÀÌ°Ô ¸¸µç´Ù.
* geriatric (¸í»ç ¾Õ¿¡¸¸) ³ëÀÎ ÀÇ·á¿Í °ü·ÃµÈ (= relating to the medical care and treatment of old people)
e.g.) a geriatric hospital ³ëÀÎ º´¿ø
* input (ÀÏ, »ç¾÷ µîÀ» ¼º°ø½ÃÅ°±â À§ÇÑ) Á¶¾ð[½Ã°£/Áö½Ä µî](ÀÇ Á¦°ø); ÅõÀÔ
e.g.) Her specialist input to the discussions has been very useful. ÀÌµé ³íÀÇ¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ±×³àÀÇ Àü¹®°¡Àû Á¶¾ðÀº ¾ÆÁÖ À¯¿ëÇß´Ù.