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[Problem]
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I have an older friend who is 70. She doesn¡¯t have much money. She was having blood pressure problems, so I ordered a deluxe blood pressure machine for her that cost $160. It wasn¡¯t a birthday gift; I was seriously concerned for her.
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I learned this week that she ¡°loaned¡± it to a friend. I wrote her a note and asked her nicely to please get it back because I didn¡¯t buy it for her friend, but because I was worried about her health. She is now not speaking to me, and my blood pressure is going up by the minute because I¡¯m so angry. Was I out of line or is she? - HYPER-FURIOUS IN ARIZONA
[Advice]
±Øµµ·Î È°¡ ³ª ÆÞÆÞ ³¯¶Ù´Â µ¶ÀÚ ºÐ²²: ÁøÁ¤Çϼ¼¿ä. ½ÉÈ£ÈíÀ» ÇϽðí¿ä. µ¶ÀÚ ºÐ²²¼ ÇϽŠÀÏÀº ¾Æ¸§´ä°í °ü´ëÇÑ ÇൿÀ̼ÌÁö¸¸ ±× Ç÷¾Ð ÃøÁ¤±â´Â ¼±¹°À̾ú¾î¿ä. ÇÑ ¹ø ¼±¹°À» ÁÖ¸é ±×°¡ ¿øÇÏ´Â ´ë·Î ±×°É·Î ¹» ÇÒÁö´Â ¹ÞÀº »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô ´Þ·Á ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. ±× ºÐ²² ±×°É µ¹·Á´Þ¶ó°í µ¶ÀÚ ºÐ²²¼ ¸»¾¸ÇϽŠ°Ç ¼±ÀÇ¿´À»Áö ¸ð¸£Áö¸¸ ±×·¸°Ô ÇϽô °Ç ¿ÇÁö ¾Ê¾Ò¾î¿ä.
DEAR HYPER-FURIOUS: Relax. Breathe. What you did was a beautiful and generous gesture, but the blood pressure machine was a gift. Once a gift is given, it belongs to the recipient to do with as she (or he) wishes. For you to tell her to ask for it back may have been well-intentioned, but it was the wrong thing to do.
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* blood pressure = Ç÷¾Ð
* be concerned for ~ = ~À» ¿°·ÁÇÏ´Â
* by the minute = ½Ã½Ã°¢°¢À¸·Î
* be[get, go, step] out of line = ±×¸©µÈ ÇൿÀ» ÇÏ´Ù, ¿¹»ó ¹ÛÀÇ ÇൿÀ» ÇÏ´Ù
* recipient = (¾î¶² °ÍÀ») ¹Þ´Â »ç¶÷, ¼ö·É[¼öÃë]ÀÎ
* well-intentioned = ¼±ÀÇÀÇ, ¼±ÀÇ·Î ÇÑ