[Problem]
Àú´Â ÃÖ±Ù¿¡ µÎ ¹ø° °áÈ¥À» Çß½À´Ï´Ù. Á¦ ù ³²ÆíÀº ¾ð¾îÀûÀ¸·Î, Á¤¼ÀûÀ¸·Î Çд븦 Çß¾î¿ä. ÀçÈ¥ÇÑ ³²ÆíÀº ÀÎÁ¤ÀÌ ¸¹°í Àú¸¦ Àß Ã¬°ÜÁÝ´Ï´Ù. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ÇÑ °¡Áö ¹®Á¦°¡ ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. ±×´Â Ç×»ó ¿å¼³À» ³»¹ñ¾î¿ä. (³²ÆíÀº ¿äÁîÀ½ ¿å¼³À» ÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù´Â °ÍÀ» ±ú´ÝÁö ¸øÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇØ¿ä.)
I recently married for the second time. My first husband was verbally and emotionally abusive. My new husband is kindhearted and takes good care of me. I have one problem though. He curses all the time. (I don't think he realizes he is doing it anymore.)
Àú´Â »ç¶÷ÀÌ ¿å¼³À» ÇÏ¸é ¹«½ÄÇÑ »ç¶÷À¸·Î º¸ÀÎ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇØ¿ä. Àú¸¦ °¡Àå ±«·Ó°Ô ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº ±×ÀÇ ÀÎÁ¾Â÷º°Àû ³ó´ãÀÔ´Ï´Ù. Àú´Â ³²Æí¿¡°Ô ´Ù¸¥ ÀÎÁ¾À̳ª ´Ù¸¥ ¹®È¸¦ ¸ð¿åÇÏ´Â ¸»À» µè°í ½ÍÁö ¾Ê´Ù°í ¸»ÇØ¿ÔÁö¸¸, ±×´Â ¿©ÀüÈ÷ ±×·¡¿ä. ³²ÆíÀº ±× ³ó´ãµéÀÌ Àç¹Ì ÀÖ´Ù°í »ý°¢Çϸç Àڱ⠾ÆÀ̵é°ú °øÀ¯ÇÑ´ä´Ï´Ù.
I believe that cursing makes a person look ignorant. What bothers me most are his racist jokes. I have told him I don't like hearing him insult other races or cultures, but he still does it. He thinks the jokes are funny and he shares them with his kids.
³²ÆíÀÌ Á¤¸» ÀÎÁ¾ Â÷º°ÁÖÀÇÀÚ¶ó°í »ý°¢ÇÏÁö´Â ¾Ê¾Æ¿ä; Á¤¼ÀûÀ¸·Î ¹Ì¼º¼÷ÇÏ°í ÀÚ½ÅÀÇ ÇൿÀÌ ¾ó¸¶³ª ¹«·ÊÇÑÁö ±ú´ÝÁö ¸øÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù´Â »ý°¢ÀÌ µé»ÓÀÔ´Ï´Ù. Àú ¾î¶»°Ô ÇÏÁö¿ä? Àú´Â ±×°Í ¶§¹®¿¡ ´çȤ½º·´°í ³²ÆíÀÇ ¾ÆÀ̵鿡°Ô ±×·± ÇൿÀ» Á¶ÀåÇÏ°í ½ÍÁö ¾Ê½À´Ï´Ù. - ³ó´ãÀÌ ½ÈÀº µ¶ÀÚ
I don't think he is really racist; I just think he's emotionally immature and doesn't realize how rude his behavior is. What do I do? I'm embarrassed by it and don't want to encourage it in his kids. - NO JOKE
[Advice]
³ó´ãÀÌ ½ÈÀ¸½Å µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: µÎ ¹ø° ³²Æí²²¼´Â Àü³²Æíº¸´Ù´Â µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²² ´õ ³ªÀº ´ë¿ì¸¦ ÇØÁֽôÂÁö ¸ð¸£°ÚÁö¸¸, µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼´Â ÀÎÁ¾ Â÷º°ÁÖÀÇÀÚÀÎ µ¿½Ã¿¡ Æí°ßÀÌ ¾ÆÁÖ ½ÉÇÑ ³²ÀÚ¿Í °áÈ¥ÇϽŠµí ÇÕ´Ï´Ù. µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼ ´çȤÇØ ÇϽô °ÍÀ» Å¿ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ»°Ô¿ä. ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ À¯ÇüÀÇ ³ó´ãÀº Á¶·ÕÀ» ´çÇÏ´Â ¼Ò¼ö Áý´ÜÀÌ ¾Æ´Ï¶ó ±× ¸»À» ÇÏ´Â »ç¶÷À» ´õ ³ª»Ú°Ô ºñÄ¡°Ô Çϱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ¿¡¿ä. ¸¸ÀÏ ÀÌ¹Ì ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ¸¼Ì´Ù¸é, ±× Á¡À» ³²Æí¿¡°Ô ÁöÀûÇØ ÁÖ¼¼¿ä. ±×¸®°í ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ Á¾·ùÀÇ À¯¸Ó´Â ±× ¸»À» ÇÏ´Â »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô ºÎ´çÇÑ µüÁö°¡ ºÙ°Ô ÇÒ °ÍÀ̶ó´Â Á¡À» ÀÌÇØÇϵµ·Ï ¾ÆÀ̵鿡°Ô ´ÜÈ£ÇÏ°Ô ¼³¸íÇØ ÁÖ¼Å¾ß µË´Ï´Ù.
DEAR NO JOKE: Your second husband may treat you better than your previous one, but it appears you have married a man who is both a racist and a bigot. I don't blame you for being embarrassed, because jokes of this nature reflect more upon the person telling them than the minority that's being ridiculed. Point that out to him, if you haven't already. And you should definitely explain it to his kids so they'll understand that this kind of humor will label them.
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* set (a precedent, example etc.) (¸ð¹ü, ¼öÁØ µîÀ») ¸¸µé´Ù[¼¼¿ì´Ù]
(= to show a people a way of doing something which they use or copy)
e.g.) I rely on you to set a good example. ³ª´Â ³×°¡ ÁÁÀº ¸ð¹üÀ» º¸¿©ÁÙ °ÍÀ¸·Î ¹Ï´Â´Ù.
* kindhearted Ä£ÀýÇÏ°í ³Ê±×·¯¿î, ¸¶À½ÀÌ µû½ºÇÑ (= kind and generous)
e.g.) She is a kindhearted woman; she takes care of sick neighbors.
±×³à´Â ÀÎÁ¤ÀÌ ¸¹Àº ¿©¼ºÀÌ´Ù; ±×³à´Â º´µç ÀÌ¿ô»ç¶÷µéÀ» µ¹º¸¾Æ ÁØ´Ù.
* curse ¿å(¼³)À» ÇÏ´Ù (= to swear)
e.g.) He hit his head as he stood up and cursed loudly. ±×°¡ ÀÏ¾î¼¸é¼ ¸Ó¸®¸¦ ÂöÀÚ Å« ¼Ò¸®·Î ¿åÀ» Çß´Ù.
* anymore (ºÎÁ¤¹®¿¡¼) ÀÌÁ¦, ¿äÁòÀº (not¡¦ anymore) (= used to say that something does not happen or
is not true now, although it used to happen or be true in the past; no longer)
e.g.) I will not drink anymore. ¿äÁòÀº ¼úÀ» ¾È ¸¶½Å´Ù.
* bigot Æí°ßÀÌ ¾ÆÁÖ ½ÉÇÑ »ç¶÷ (= someone who has such strong opinions about race, religion, or politics that
they are unwilling to listen to anyone else's opinions)
e.g.) a religious/racial bigot Á¾±³Àû/ÀÎÁ¾ Æí°ßÀÌ ¾ÆÁÖ ½ÉÇÑ »ç¶÷
* reflect upon somebody ~¿¡ ´ëÇØ ~ÇÑ ÀνÄÀ» °®°Ô ÇÏ´Ù (= to make somebody have a particular opinion
of somebody/something)
e.g.) When the department performs badly, it reflects on me as manager (= it makes people think I am a bad manager).
±× ºÎ¼ÀÇ ½ÇÀûÀÌ ³ª»Ü ¶§, ÀÌ´Â »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ³ª¸¦ ÇüÆí¾ø´Â °ü¸®ÀÚ·Î »ý°¢ÇÏ°Ô ¸¸µç´Ù.
* label (somebody as something) (ƯÈ÷ ºÎ´çÇÏ°Ô) µüÁö[²¿¸®Ç¥]¸¦ ºÙÀÌ´Ù
(= If something is labelled, a label is attached to it giving information about it)
e.g.) It is unfair to label a small baby as naughty. ¾î¸° ¾Æ±â¿¡°Ô ¹ö¸©¾ø´Ù´Â ²¿¸®Ç¥¸¦ ºÙÀÌ´Â °ÍÀº ºÎ´çÇÏ´Ù.