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[Debate/Åä·Ð] (HM-035) Helpful friend becomes a target for woman£§s unhappiness
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[Problem]

ÀúÀÇ ÁÁÀº Ä£±¸ Çϳª°¡ È¥ÀÎÇÑ Áö 16³â µÈ °áÈ¥»ýÈ°¿¡ °ï¶õÀ» °Þ°í ÀÖ½À´Ï´Ù. ±×³à°¡ ÀúÇÑÅ× Á¶¾ðÀ» ±¸ÇÏ·¯ ¿À°í ÀÖ¾î¿ä. ±×³àÀÇ ³²ÆíÀº ¾Æ³»¿Í »çÀÌ°¡ Á¡Á¡ ¸Ö¾îÁ³À¸¸ç, À°Ã¼ °ü°è¸¦ °ÅºÎÇÑ´ä´Ï´Ù. ±×´Â ´Ã ¾Æ³»¿¡°Ô Â¥Áõ³­ µíÀÌ ¸»ÇÑ´Ù°í ÇØ¿ä. 
A good friend of mine began having trouble in her marriage of 16 years. She has been coming to me for advice. Her husband has grown distant and refuses physical interaction. He speaks to her as if he is always irritated with her.

±×³à°¡ Àú¿¡°Ô Á¶¾ðÀ» ±¸ÇÏ´Â ÀÌÀ¯´Â Á¦°¡ ÇöÀç ÀÌÈ¥ÀýÂ÷¸¦ ¹â°í ÀÖ°í Á¦ ³²ÆíÀÌ ¶È°°Àº ½ÅÈ£¸¦ º¸ÀÌ°í Àֱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ¿¡¿ä. Àú´Â ±×³à¿¡°Ô Á¦ ´É·Â²¯ ÃÖ»óÀÇ Á¶¾ðÀ» ÇÏ·Á°í ³ë·ÂÇØ¿ÔÁö¸¸, ÀÌÁ¦ ±×³à´Â Àڱ⠳²ÆíÀÌ Àú¿¡°Ô ²ø¸®°í ÀÖ´Ù´Â ¸»À» ³ÍÁö½Ã ³»ºñÄ¡°í ÀÖ¾î¿ä! Àú´Â ¾Æ¹«·± À߸øµµ ÀúÁö¸£Áö ¾Ê¾Ò±â ¶§¹®¿¡ ÀÔÀåÀÌ ¾ÆÁÖ °ÅºÏÇÕ´Ï´Ù. Á¦°¡ ¾î¶»°Ô ÇØ¾ß ÇÏÁö¿ä? - ¾ÆÁÖ ¹Ì¹¦ÇÑ ÀÔÀå¿¡ óÇÑ µ¶ÀÚ
The reason she seeks my advice is because I'm going through a divorce and my husband exhibited the same signs. I have tried to give her the best advice I can, but now she's implying that her husband is attracted to me! It makes me very uncomfortable since I haven't done anything wrong. What should I do? - WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

[Advice]

¹Ì¹¦ÇÑ ÀÔÀå¿¡ óÇϽŠµ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ Ä£±¸ºÐÀº Áö±Ý Á¤¼­ÀûÀ¸·Î ¾ÆÁÖ ¸Á°¡Áø »óÅÂÀÔ´Ï´Ù. ±×³àÀÇ ³²ÆíÀÌ ±×³à¸¦ Á¤¼­ÀûÀ¸·Î ÇдëÇÏ´Â ÀÌÀ¯¸¦ ¸»ÇØ ÁÖÁö ¾Ê¾Ò±â ¶§¹®¿¡, ±×³à°¡ ÇÊ»çÀûÀ¸·Î ±× ÀÌÀ¯¸¦ ã°í ÀÖ´Â °Ì´Ï´Ù. ¿Ã¹Ù¸¥ ¹æÇâÀ¸·Î ³ª¾Æ°¡´Â ù°ÉÀ½Àº, µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀº ±×³àÀÇ ³²Æí¿¡°Ô ÇöÀç ²ø¸®Áö ¾ÊÀ¸¸ç, °ú°Å¿¡ ÀüÇô ²ø¸®Áö ¾Ê¾Ò°í, ¾ÕÀ¸·Îµµ ÀüÇô ²ø¸®Áö ¾ÊÀ» °ÍÀ̶ó°í ±×³à¿¡°Ô È®½ÅÀ» ÁÖ´Â °ÍÀÌ°ÚÁö¿ä. ±×¸®°í ³ª¼­, ±×³à´Â µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­ ÁÖ½Ç ¼ö ÀÖ´Â °Íº¸´Ù ´õ ¸¹Àº Áö¿øÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÒÁöµµ ¸ð¸£¸ç, Àü¹®ÀûÀÎ »ó´ã»ç¿Í ´ëÈ­¸¦ ³ª´©´Â °ÍÀÌ ´õ¿í µµ¿òÀÌ µÉ ¼öµµ ÀÖÀ» °ÍÀ̶ó´Â ÀÇ°ßÀ» Á¦½ÃÇϼ¼¿ä.
DEAR WALKING ON EGGSHELLS: Your friend is an emotional wreck right now. Because her husband hasn't given her the reason he is emotionally abusing her, she's desperately looking for a reason. A step in the right direction would be to assure her that you are not, never were, and never will be attracted to her husband. Then suggest that she may need more support than you can give her and she might find it helpful to talk to a professional counselor.

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* walking on eggshells (thin ice) ¹Ì¹¦ÇÑ ÀÔÀå¿¡ óÇØ ÀÖ´Â (= to be in a delicate situation) 
e.g.) Ever since I smashed their car, I've been walking on eggshells with my parents. ºÎ¸ð´Ô ½Â¿ëÂ÷¸¦ ¹Ú»ì³½ ÀÌÈÄ, ³ª´Â ºÎ¸ð´Ô°ú ¹Ì¹¦ÇÑ ÀÔÀå¿¡ óÇØ ÀÖ´Ù. 
 
* wreck [ÁÖ·Î ´Ü¼ö·Î] (ºñ°Ý½Ä) (À°Ã¼Àû, Á¤½ÅÀûÀ¸·Î) ¸Á°¡Áø »ç¶÷, ¸¸½ÅâÀÌ (= someone who is very nervous, tired, or unhealthy)
e.g.) Physically, I was a total wreck. À°Ã¼ÀûÀ¸·Î ³ª´Â ¿ÏÀüÈ÷ ¸Á°¡Á®[¸¸½ÅâÀÌ°¡ µÇ¾î] ÀÖ¾ú´Ù.