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[Debate/Åä·Ð] (HM-042) Sad news dampens happy birthday wishes for elderly mom
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[Problem]

Àú´Â ÃÖ±Ù¿¡ ÀúÈñ ¾î¸Ó´ÏÀÇ ÀýÄ£ ÁßÀÇ ÇÑ ºÐÀ̽Š¡®¿¡µå³ª¡¯ ¾¾¿¡°Ô ÀüÈ­¸¦ °É¾î »ý½ÅÀ» ÃàÇÏÇß½À´Ï´Ù. ±×ºÐÀÇ 101¼¼ »ý½ÅÀ̾ú¾î¿ä. Á¦°¡ ±×ºÐÀÇ °¡Á·¿¡ ´ëÇØ ¿©ÂÞ¾î ºÃÀ» ¶§, ´ç½ÅÀÇ Àå³²ÀÌ ¾Ï¿¡ °É·È´Ù´Â ÃÖ±Ù ¼Ò½Ä¿¡ Èå´À³¢½Ã¸é¼­ ÇÑ µ¿¾È ½Ã°£ÀÌ Èê·¶½À´Ï´Ù.    
I recently phoned one of my mother's best friends, "Edna," to wish her a happy birthday. It was her 101st. When I asked her about her family, she spent some time sobbing over the recent news that her eldest son has cancer.

ÀúÀÇ Ã³À½ »ý°¢Àº, ±×¸®°í ¸î¸î ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µéÀÇ »ý°¢µµ ¿Ö ±×ºÐ²² ±× À̾߱⸦ Çß´À³Ä ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀ̾ú¾î¿ä. ¿¡µå³ª ¾¾´Â ¼è¾àÇÏ°í °Ç°­µµ ÁÁÁö ¾Ê½À´Ï´Ù. ±×ºÐÀº ±ä »ý¾Ö¿¡ Àڱ⠳ª¸§´ë·Î ºñ±Ø°ú Á×À½À» ¸ñ°ÝÇØ ¿À¼Ì¾î¿ä. ±×·¡¼­ Àú´Â ±×ºÐ²²¼­ ÀÌ Ãæ°ÝÀûÀÎ ¼Ò½ÄÀ» µèÁö ¸»¾Ò¾î¾ß Çß´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇÕ´Ï´Ù.    
My first thought ¦¡ and that of several others ¦¡ was, why was she told? Edna is frail and in poor health. She has seen her share of tragedies and losses in her long life, and I think she should have been spared this devastating news.

±×ºÐÀÇ »ý½Å ³¯¿¡ Èå´À³¢½Ã´Â ¼Ò¸®¸¦ µéÀ¸¸é¼­ Á¦ °¡½¿Àº ºñÅëÇß½À´Ï´Ù. ÇÏÁö¸¸ Á¦ ÀϺΠģ±¸µéÀº Àú¿Í ÀÇ°ßÀÌ ´Þ¶ú¾î¿ä. ±× Ä£±¸µéÀº ±×ºÐ²²¼­ ¾Æ¼Å¾ß¸¸ ÇÑ´Ù°í »ý°¢Çß½À´Ï´Ù. ÀÌ ¹®Á¦¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ¼±»ý´ÔÀÇ »ý°¢À» ¸»¾¸ÇØ ÁÖ½Ã¸é °¨»çÇÏ°Ú½À´Ï´Ù. - ¼­ºÎ¿¡¼­ ÀǾÆÇÑ µ¶ÀÚ 
Hearing her sob on her birthday broke my heart. However, a couple of my friends disagreed with me. They thought she ought to know. Your thoughts on this would be appreciated. - WONDERING IN THE WEST

[Advice]

ÀǾÆÇØ ÇϽô µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ »óȲ¿¡ Àû¿ëµÇ´Â ¾ö°ÝÇÑ ±ÔÄ¢À̶õ ¾ø½À´Ï´Ù. ºñ·Ï ¿¡µå³ª ¾¾´Â ´õ ÀÌ»ó µ¶¸³ÀûÀ¸·Î »ýÈ°ÇÏ½Ç ¼ö ¾øÀ»Áöµµ ¸ð¸£Áö¸¸, ±×ºÐÀÇ »ç°í´Â ºÐ¸íÇÒ ¼öµµ ÀÖÀ¸¸ç, ¿©ÀüÈ÷ Áý¾ÈÀÇ °¡ÀåÀ̽ʴϴÙ. µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­ ´©±º°¡¿¡°Ô Á¤º¸¸¦ ¾Ë·ÁÁÖÁö ¾Ê´Â´Ù¸é, ±×°ÍÀÌ ºñ·Ï ÁÁÀº Àǵµ¶ó°í ÇÒÁö¶óµµ ÀÌ´Â »ç¶÷À» °í¸³½Ãŵ´Ï´Ù. ±× ´ëÈ­°¡ µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­ Àú¿¡°Ô ÆíÁö¸¦ ½á¾ß¸¸ ÇÏ½Ç Á¤µµ·Î ¸¶À½À» »óÇÏ°Ô Çϼ̴ٴÏ, Á¦ »ý°¢Àº ¹«½¼ ÀÏÀÌ ÀϾ´ÂÁö¸¦ µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼­ ¿¡µå³ª ¾¾ÀÇ ÀÚ³àµé¿¡°Ô ¾Ë·ÁÁÖ¼Å¾ß ÇÑ´Ù´Â °ÍÀÔ´Ï´Ù.
DEAR WONDERING: There are no hard-and-fast rules that apply to these situations. Although Edna may no longer be able to live independently, her thinking may be clear and she is still the matriarch of the family. When you withhold information from someone, even if it's well-intentioned, it isolates the person. Because the conversation upset you to such an extent that you felt you had to write to me, my thought is you should let Edna's children know what happened.

[¾îÈÖ & Ç¥Çö]

* dampen (°¨Á¤, ¹ÝÀÀÀÇ ±â¼¼¸¦) ²ª´Ù[¾àÈ­½ÃÅ°´Ù]  (= to make a feeling such as interest or hope less strong)
e.g.) None of the setbacks could dampen his enthusiasm for the project. ±× ¾î¶² ÁÂÀýµµ ±× ÇÁ·ÎÁ§Æ®¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ±×ÀÇ ¿­ÀǸ¦ ²ªÁö´Â ¸øÇß´Ù.
 
* frail (ƯÈ÷ ³ëÀÎÀÌ) ¼è¾àÇÑ (= Someone who is frail is thin and weak, especially because they are old)  
e.g.) Mother was becoming too frail to live alone. ¾î¸Ó´Ï²²¼­ ³Ê¹« ³ë¼èÇØÁö¼Å¼­ È¥ÀÚ »ç½Ã±â Èûµé¾îÁö°í ÀÖ¾ú´Ù.
 
* hard-and-fast <±ÔÄ¢ µîÀÌ> ¾öÁßÇÑ(strict), º¯°æÀ» Çã¶ôÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â (= not able to be changed)
e.g.) We need hard and fast rules. ¿ì¸®´Â ¾ö°ÝÇÑ ±ÔÄ¢ÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÏ´Ù.
 
* matriarch (ÇÑ °¡¹®, »çȸ Áý´ÜÀÇ) ¿©ÀÚ °¡Àå[¿ìµÎ¸Ó¸®] 
e.g.) After grandfather died, grandmother became the matriarch of our family. ÇҾƹöÁö²²¼­ µ¹¾Æ°¡½Å ÈÄ ÇÒ¸Ó´Ï´Â Áý¾ÈÀÇ °¡ÀåÀÌ µÇ¼Ì´Ù. 
 
* upset ¼Ó»óÇÏ°Ô ¸¸µé´Ù[ÇÏ´Ù] 
e.g.) This decision is likely to upset a lot of people. ÀÌ °áÁ¤Àº ¸¹Àº »ç¶÷µéÀ» ¼Ó»óÇÏ°Ô ¸¸µé °Í °°´Ù.