I have a good friend I've known for 35 years. I was there for her during some rough times when we were both living paycheck-to-paycheck. Long story short, she's now married to a millionaire, and every time we get together, she insists on picking up the check.
¼ÖÁ÷È÷ ¸»Çؼ, Àú´Â Á¦°¡ ÁöºÒÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº ¸»ÀÌ ¾È µÈ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇÕ´Ï´Ù. ±×°É ÀÌÇØ ÇØ¿ä. ÀúÇÑÅ× 50´Þ·¯´Â ±×³à¿¡°Ô 50¼¾Æ®¿Í °°¾Æ¿ä. ±×·¯³ª Á¦°¡ °¡Àå ¿øÄ¡ ¾Ê´Â ÀÏÀº Á¦°¡ ±×³à¸¦ ÀÌ¿ëÇϰųª ±×³à¸¦ ´ç¿¬ÇÑ °ÍÀ¸·Î ¿©±ä´Ù°í ±×³à°¡ »ý°¢ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ¿¡¿ä. ÇѹøÀº Àú³á ½Ä»ç û±¸¼¸¦ Á¦°¡ Áý¾î µé¾ú´Âµ¥, ±×³à´Â ½ÇÁ¦·Î Àú¿¡°Ô ¸Ã°å¾î¿ä!
Truthfully, I suppose it makes no sense for me to pay. I get that. Fifty dollars to me is like 50 cents to her. But the last thing I want is for her to feel I'm taking advantage or taking her for granted. Once I did grab the dinner tab, and she really let me have it!
Á¦°¡ ÀÌ ÀÏÀ» Áö³ªÄ¡°Ô »ý°¢ÇÏ´Â °É±î¿ä? ±×³àÀÇ Çà¿î°ú ³Ê±×·¯¿òÀ» ±×Àú ¹Þ¾Æ µéÀ̱⸸ ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ±î¿ä? - Áß¼ºÎ¿¡¼ ¿ìÁ¤À» ¼ÒÁßÈ÷ ¿©±â´Â µ¶ÀÚ
Am I overthinking this? Should I just accept her good fortune and generosity? - VALUES FRIENDSHIP IN THE MIDWEST
[Advice]
¿ìÁ¤À» ¼ÒÁßÈ÷ ¿©±â½Ã´Â µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²: µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ Ä£±¸ºÐ ¿ª½Ã ¿ìÁ¤À» ¼ÒÁßÈ÷ ¿©±â½Ã°í Àå±â°£ÀÇ °ü°è°¡ ¾ó¸¶³ª ±ÍÁßÇÑÁö¸¦ Á¦´ë·Î Æò°¡ÇϽô °Í °°½À´Ï´Ù. µÎ ºÐ²²¼´Â °øÀ¯ÇϽô ¿ª»ç°¡ ¸¹À¸½Åµ¥, ±×·¯ÇÑ ¿ìÁ¤Àº Èä³» ³»±â°¡ ½±Áö ¾ÊÁö¿ä.
DEAR VALUES FRIENDSHIP: It appears your friend also values friendship and appreciates how precious long-term relationships are. The two of you have a lot of shared history, and that kind of friendship isn't easy to replicate.
Àú´Â µ¶ÀÚ´Ô²²¼ ±×³àÀÇ °ü´ëÇÔÀ» ¹Þ¾ÆµéÀÌ¼Å¾ß ÇÑ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇÏÁö¸¸, ¶ÇÇÑ ±×³à°¡ µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ ¸¶À½À» ÆíÇÏ°Ô ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖµµ·Ï µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ °¨Á¤À» ±×³à¿Í °øÀ¯ÇÏ¼Å¾ß ÇÑ´Ù°í »ý°¢ÇØ¿ä. ¸¸¾à ±×°ÍÀÌ µ¶ÀÚ´ÔÀÇ ºÎäÀǽÄÀ» ´ú ´À³¢°Ô ÇØ Áشٸé, ±×³à¿¡°Ô °¡²û ¼±¹°À» ÁÖ´Â °ÍÀ» °í·ÁÇØ º¸¼¼¿ä. ºñ½Ñ °ÍÀÏ ÇÊ¿ä´Â ¾ø°í, ±×³É Á¤¼ºÀÌ ±êµç °ÍÀÌ¸é µË´Ï´Ù.
I do think you should accept her generosity, but I also think you should share your feelings with her so she can put your mind at ease. If it will make you feel less indebted, consider giving her an occasional gift. It doesn't have to be expensive, just thoughtful.
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* tab (À½½ÄÁ¡, ¼úÁýÀÇ) °è»ê¼[¿Ü»ó ÀåºÎ]; ºñ¿ë, °¡°Ý (= money you owe)
e.g.) The tab for the meeting could be $3000. ±× ȸÀÇ ºñ¿ëÀÌ 3,000 ´Þ·¯°¡ µÉ ¼öµµ ÀÖ´Ù.
* deep pockets (º¹¼ö·Î) Àڱݿø(ê¹) (= a lot of money to spend)
e.g.) Their dad must have deep pockets. ±×µé ¾Æºü°¡ ¶¼ ºÎÀÚÀΰ¡ ºÁ¿ä.
* live paycheck-to-paycheck ±Ù±ÙÀÌ »ì¾Æ°¡´Ù, ±×³¯ ¹ú¾î ±×³¯ ¸Ô°í »ì´Ù
e.g.) Twice that number are living paycheck to paycheck. ±× ¼öÀÇ µÎ ¹èÀÇ Àα¸°¡ ÇÏ·çÇÏ·ç ¹ú¾î ¸Ô°í »ì°í ÀÖ´Ù.
* (to cut, to make a) long story short °£´ÜÇÏ°Ô ÁÙ¿© ¸»Çϸé
e.g.) Long story short, a crisis breaks out. °£´ÜÈ÷ ¸»Çؼ, À§±â°¡ ¹ß»ýÇÑ´Ù.
* pick up the check À½½Ä°ªÀ» ³»´Ù, ¼ÀÀ» Ä¡¸£´Ù.
e.g.) I'll pick up the check this time. À̹ø¿¡´Â ³»°¡ ³¾°Ô¿ä.
* replicate (Á¤È®È÷) ¸ð»ç[º¹Á¦]ÇÏ´Ù
e.g.) CI is much easier for them to replicate. ±×µé¿¡°Ô CI´Â ¸ð¹æÇϱâ ÈξÀ ½±´Ù.